What would I like for Christmas? / Paula (Adam's Momma) What would I like for Christmas?, you might say
the list i could tell you is so long.
peace on earth, goodwill to all men
sounds like the makings of a great little song.
What would i like for Christmas?, you repeat
and I will pause a while to think.
House all the homeless, protect all the weak,
Give all people safe water to drink.
What would I like for Christmas?, you insist,
I sense your patience is starting to break.
so before you get angry , I will try to explain
what I want for a great Christmas to make.
I would like to spend a moment of time
with my son/daughter who is no longer here.
To talk and to laugh, to play and to hold,
To see how (s)he's grown, shed a tear.
I know what I ask is not possible,
though if you could grant my wish you would.
So instead I have only, ONE simple request,
It'll bring peace to my mind if you should.
On Christmas day, as you open your gifts,
As you spend time with those that you love.
Could you please spare a moment, just a second of time
For those that are in heaven up above.
Those who have lost, those who still grieve,
They will have the same one request.
Remember their loved ones, celebrate in their lives,
REMEMBER, and their minds will be at rest.
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Twas not long until Christmas / Jo-Ann Pacenta Lauren's Mom (Angel family friend )
Twas not long before Christmas and I dreaded the days, That I knew I was facing – the holiday craze. The stores were all filled with holiday lights, In hopes of drawing customers by day and by night. As others were making their holiday plans, My heart was breaking - I couldn’t understand. I had lost my dear child a few years before, And I knew what my holiday had in store. When out of nowhere, there arose such a sound, I sprang to my feet and was looking around, Away to the window I flew like a flash, Tore open the shutters and threw up the sash The sight that I saw took my breath away, And my tears turned to smiles in the light of the day. When what to my wondering eyes should appear, But a cluster of butterflies fluttering near. With beauty and grace they performed a dance, I knew in a moment this wasn’t by chance. The hope that they gave me was a sign from above, That my child was still near me and that I was loved. The message they brought was my holiday gift, And I cried when I saw them in spite of myself. As I knelt closer to get a better view, One allowed me to pet it - as if it knew - That I needed the touch of its fragile wings, To help me get through the holiday scene. In the days that followed I carried the thought, Of the message the butterflies left in my heart - That no matter what happens or what days lie ahead, Our children are with us - they’re not really dead. Yes, the message of the butterflies still rings in my ears, A message of hope - a message so dear. And I imagined they sang as they flew out of sight, “To all bereaved parents - We love you tonight!” By Faye McCord
Just For Today / Paula (Adam's Momma) I found this on a grief website and thought that it was worth sharing.
Just For Today
« on: December 17, 2008, 12:53:57 AM »
Just For Today For Bereaved Parents
Just for today I will try to live through the next 24 hours
and not expect to get over my child's death,
but instead learn to live with it, just one day at a time.
Just for today I will remember my child's life, not just her death,
and bask in the comfort of all those treasured days
and moments we shared.
Just for today I will forgive all the family and friends
who didn't help or comfort me the way I needed them to.
They truly did not know how.
Just for today I will smile no matter how much I hurt on the inside,
for maybe if I smile a little,
my heart will soften and I will begin to heal.
Just for today I will reach out to comfort a relative or friend of my child,
for they are hurting too,
and perhaps we can help each other.
Just for today I will free myself from my self-inflicted burden of guilt,
for deep in my heart I know if there was anything in this world
I could of done to save my child from death,
I would of done it.
Just for today I will honor my child's memory
by doing something with another child
because I know that would make my own child proud.
Just for today I will offer my hand in friendship
to another bereaved parent
for I do know how they feel.
Just for today when my heart feels like breaking,
I will stop and remember that grief is the price we pay for loving
and the only reason I hurt is because
I had the privilege of loving so much
Just for today I will not compare myself with others.
I am fortunate to be who I am
and have had my child for as long as I did.
Just for today I will allow myself to be happy,
for I know that I am not deserting her by living on.
Just for today I will accept that I did not die when my child did,
my life did go on,
and I am the only one who can make that life worthwhile once more.
~~~~Vicki Tushingham
Happy Holidays / Angela -. Daughter To Angel Linda Taylor
At Christmas let us remember and honour those who are no longer with us and cherish those who are.
Holidays are even harder this year / Paula (Adam's Brokenhearted Mama) Chanukah-Christmas holidays are rapidly approaching and I am falling fast. The roller coaster of emotions of losing Adam, watching Craig decompensate and Kaitlin's serious issues are crippling me. I am crying buckets of tears as I juggle everything I need to do. How much can one person take? Then I think of all my brother's & sister's in-grief and how they inspire me to honor my son's memory and continue to model healthy behaviors for my very sick, in need family. Please G-d you have taken so much from us already, bless our families, homes & lives with your presence and grace and take very good loving care of our children who now reside with you. Fill our hearts with their song and please send us signs to give us joy & hope.
MERRY CHRISTMAS IN HEAVEN CHRISSY / TERRI♥MOM TO ANGEL BRENT BOWDEN
MERRY CHRISTMAS CHRISSY♥ WENDY&SARAH / WENDY HIGGINS ANGEL KEVIN CONATTY'S FIANCE ♥. SARAH KEVIN CONATTY’S STEP♥DAUGHTER (ANGEL KEVIN CONATTY'S FRIEND )
WISHING EVERYONE IN CHRISSY’S FAMILY A VERY HEALTH, HAPPY,AND SAFE HOLIDAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL LOTS OF LOVE AND PRAYS FROM MY FAMILY TO YOURS GOD BLESS WENDY AND SARAH ♥ ANGEL KEVIN CONATTY'S FIANCE AND STEP-DAUGHTER
HAPPY THANKSGIVING / Diane/Mom To Angel Jimmy Brozzetti
Thinking of you...Thanksgiving Wishes... / Angela _. Daughter To Angel Linda Taylor
Hard as a Parent not to feel so responsible..... / Paula (Adam's Mom) Bruckner (Friend of Linda & Mario ) One of our responsibilities as parents is to become independent of our children. (Author) Andrew Schneider notes that many of us feel inadequate as parents because we assume we are totally responsible for them, but we are not. Schneider says, "Their soul is in charge of their lives, and nothing that you do can greatly interfere nor greatly help. Who you are as a being and what you model is the important reality." How specifically can we support our children? We want them to feel nurtured and valued. We want to support them in learning how to provide for themselves. And we want to help them build good relationships. "The most important thing that parents can teach their children is how to get along without them." -- Frank A. Clark "There are only two lasting bequests we can hope to give our children. One of these is roots; the other, wings." -- Hodding Carter
Our Precious Angels / Terri♥Mom To Angel Brent Bowden
Dear Rossi family,
In memory of our precious angels I made a graphic for Brent's site that I wanted to share with you. I hope you like it and don't mind me putting Chrissy's beautiful picture on Brent's page. All these angels have taken a place in my heart along with their special families. Hope you have a peaceful and safe holiday season.
Love & friendship, Terri Proud Mom to angel Brent Bowden
A story of hope below for all grieving parents / Paula (Adam's Momma) Bruckner DOWN BELOW the surface of a quiet pond lived a little colony of waterbugs. They were a happy colony, living far away from the sun. For many months they were very busy, scurrying over the soft mud on the bottom of the pond. They did not notice that every once in a while one of their colony seemed to lose interest in going about with its friends. Clinging to the stem of a pond lily, it gradually moved out of sight and was seen no more….
Finally, one of the waterbugs, a leader in the colony, gathered its friends together. “I have an idea,” he said, “the next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk must promise to come back and tell us where he or she went and why.”
One spring day, not long after, the very waterbug who had suggested the plan found himself climbing up the lily stalk. Up, up, up he went. Before he knew what was happening, he had broken through the surface of the water, and had fallen onto the broad, green lily pad above. When he awoke, he looked about with surprise. He couldn’t believe what he saw. A startling change had come to his old body. His movement revealed four silver wings and a long tail….
The dragonfly remembered the promise he had made when he had been a waterbug: “The next one of us who climbs up the lily stalk will come back and tell where and she went and why.”
Without thinking, the dragonfly started down. Suddenly he hit the surface of the water and bounced away. Now that he was a dragonfly he could no longer go into the water.
“I can’t return!” he said in dismay. “At least I tried, but I cannot keep my promise. Even if I could go back, not one of the waterbugs would know me in my new body. I guess I will just have to wait until they become dragonflies too. Then they’ll understand what happened to me, and where I went.”
And the dragonfly winged off happily into its wonderful new world of sun and air.
WARM WISHES / ROSE GRMA TO ANGEL BRITTANY SYFERT
No Greater Pain / Paula (Adam's Momma) Bruckner For all grieving parents who have been drafted into this forsaken club that no one would ever willingly join.........
I know you mean well,
But you don't understand,
There are no words to explain.
Although on the surface, I may appear fine,
Remember I buried a child of mine.
And there is no greater pain..
Grief is taboo in our civilized world,
I despise this hideous game,
I must smile while going insane..
For G-d's sake, a part of me died,
You can't imagine how often I've cried,
And there is no greater pain..
If I look well,
or laugh when you joke,
You think I'm my old self again..
I'm raw inside, a shell of me,
The woman you knew can no longer be,
And there is no greater pain.
Look deep in my eyes,
Acknowledge my loss,
As my heart beats its hollow refrain.
I'm caught in a web of infinite whys,
I'll mourn for my son 'til the rest of me dies,
And there is no greater pain.
Chrissy & Adam....only you two hold the key to our hearts. Come to us and let us hear your voice, feel the caress of your kiss upon our cheek and let us embrace our angels......only then can we gather the courage that we need to face yet another holiday season without you.
~ Miss You ~ / Dana Abdelhadi (Friend)
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Kaitlin needs help / Paula (Adam's Momma) Christina, please you and Adam watch and guide over Kaiti and help lead her into a good direction. Please help free her from the lure of substance abuse and poor choices. Craig & I fear that she will be joining you far before her time.
FROM OUR FAMILY TO YOURS... / ANGELA -. DAUGHTER TO ANGEL LINDA TAYLOR
Happy Thanksgiving / Family Of William Myers
God Bless
A Letter From Heaven / Dana Abdelhadi (Friend)
A Letter From Heaven For My Family xxx
As I sit here safe in heaven And watch you everyday I try to let you know with signs I never went away.
I hear you when you're laughing And watch you as you sleep I even place my arms around you To calm you as you weep.
I see you wish the days away As you beg to have me home So I try to send you messages So you know you're not alone.
Don't feel guilty that you have a life That was denied to me Oh, heaven is truly beautiful Just you wait and see.
Please live your life and laugh again Enjoy yourself, be free Then I'll know with every breathe you take You're taking one for me!
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